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7 Ways to Build Community

By Published On: October 20, 20150 Comments on 7 Ways to Build Community

Church Wellness

If not Sunday worship, then what?

As Sunday morning loses its hold on churchgoers and potential churchgoers, what comes next? How do faith communities nurture relationships? How do people draw closer to God? How can we engage the world outside our doors if opening the doors on Sunday isn’t enough?

Many church leaders are asking these questions They have given up the notion that if they just did Sunday morning differently — better preaching, better music, more women at the altar, better welcoming — the years of growth would return.

By now, even diehard Sunday worship fans are realizing that the carefully managed 70 minutes on Sunday aren’t enough. They are worth doing, but they won’t be the primary vehicle for gaining fresh momentum. Too much has changed in American culture — for all ages, not just for the ever-elusive young adults.

Here are seven ways to build community and to gain fresh momentum. They are well known among growing churches. It’s time for declining churches to give these ideas a try.

1. Small groups. The best community is always face-to-face. Two minutes at a Sunday coffee hour don’t come close to 60 minutes in a small circle of friends. This is the way Jesus built his following. Multiple kinds, from dinner groups to prayer circles to parenting support.

2. House calls. I know calls are labor intensive, but I don’t know a better way to engage with people on the fringes of a congregation. After a call, follow up with a lunch where three or four newcomers meet each other.

3. Workplace gatherings. A 30-minute prayer time or 45-minute study time, with a nucleus of church friends who work nearby, inviting work friends to participate. Take the negative edge off perceptions of church.

4. House churches. Think about church as something broader than a eucharistic table. Singing, praying, sharing stories — the things people want to do. For leadership, deploy people with a gift for enabling-style ministry.

5. Church suppers. Midweek or Sunday evening, a time for fellowship, community announcements, fun, children discovering their peers, grownups crossing age and demographic lines.

6. Mission teams. When people work together, they become friends. I still remember traveling to a Sioux reservation in South Dakota with a dozen church friends.

7. Ad hoc suppers. At the pastor’s home, at a lay leader’s home. Instead of running an institution, leaders can facilitate community formation.

Nothing radical here. Just people sharing their lives. Focus on participation, not passively watching worship leaders up front. Focus on spontaneous exchanges, not the formalized rituals of worship. Allow time for connecting, not crowd everything into an orchestrated 70 minutes trying to do it all.

Yes, these activities take some planning, but less than you might think. They should be thought of as opportunities, not “programs.” Use naturally available resources, like people’s homes, rather than worrying about budget. Let the activities take their unique course.

Remember the mantra “test and measure.” Try these seven ideas. Not all will work for you. That’s fine. Learn from what fails, and then try more new ideas. Don’t spend a year designing the perfect new program. Just cause a few things to happen and see what takes hold.

In all of these opportunities, remember to keep the doors and circles open. Don’t let insiders get control and freeze strangers out. That is part of what is killing Sunday morning. We need fresh people, fresh ideas, fresh energy.

About the Author

Tom Ehrich is a writer, church consultant and Episcopal priest based in New York. He is the publisher of Fresh Day online magazine, author of On a Journey and two national newspaper columns. His website is Church Wellness – Morning Walk Media

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