Farewell Words

A memorial service is a curious creation. On the surface, we behave as if the service is for the person who has just died. We try to honor their wishes, sing their favorite hymns, read their favorite poems, tell stories that demonstrate how we loved them and so forth. But really… really the memorial service is for the people who come to it. The people who need closure, who need comforting, who need to know that one is honored after death (even if not always before), who need to be able to imagine that “something like this will happen for me.” We all need reassurance that we will not be forgotten.