We have come in the midst of life to grieve for the death of ____, to give thanks for his/her life and to bid him/her farewell. Death and life are one in the purposes of love. Jesus said 'if you grieve with all your heart, you shall find healing’.

O Dear One, we are overwhelmed with frustration with the impossibility of fully accepting this unacceptable death.

We come before you today in abject pain and anguish There are no words to describe the distress of losing someone You love very deeply ALL: Jesus said “Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted”

1. Every tear is a womb which can birth new life. 2. Grief is the narrow passage through which we pass from death to life.

Remembering our ancestors gives life to ourselves and also to them, for we are our ancestors and they are us.

Welcome to you all, to this time of remembrance and thanksgiving – and a time of sadness and tears too.

A meandering stream runs close to a rural church dear to his childhood With clear water in springtime, turned a sullied brown by summer's end

With such an expansive awareness of our universe and our place in it, it is necessary to pause and honor the corners we turn, the milestones, the past and the present. But meaning is lost when the words are irrelevant, when language is outdated, and practices are dogmatic and un-evolving. As progressive Christians, we are called to walk into the mystery of change, while at the same time keeping close to our hearts the timeless teachings of our tradition. Our life celebrations and rituals must then reflect this call, this necessary aspect of our path. Sacred community is a space to explore these traditions and to create new ones.

We come in sorrow, confronting the fact that life ends. Yet we also know that there is a power stronger than death—the transformative power of love. Love has joined us together...

If you can tell me where I'm going after I leave here, I won't be going there.

P: We have gathered here today to give thanks for and honor Name’s life. You have come because you are family - close family or extended family; or because you are friends – old, long-trusted friends or newer friends; or because you knew Name through other connections in his life. We have gathered to mourn his death and to grieve for our loss.

I recently conducted the funeral for my father, who died after a long episode of declining health. It was a joy and a privilege to work with my family in preparing this service. But many of our family are not avowedly Christian so I wanted to respect their spiritual traditions as well as be faithful to my own. I also wanted the theology to reflect my own liberal/progressive Christian understanding.

Each birth causes us to wonder where the spark of life comes from. Every death makes us wonder what of that life survives. What we have done, and who we have been, remains part of the wider universe long after we are gone. None of us knows the whole truth about what lies beyond death. Christians believe that as we journey between life and death, we are safe in the hands of an infinitely gracious God. What we do know and believe is that every human life, with a mind to think and a heart to love, is an expression of the creative spirit of God.

I went to the funeral home last night to see a friend whose life was entwined with mine. Someone once told me that if you want to know the truth about a person's life go to their funeral.

Amazing Grace; it gives us birth, To each and everyone; This precious gift of life to live; This race for us to run.

As our lives tread onward, we find ourselves on the Earth side of a "door" Mortality certain to face us, we wonder what's beyond --what is the "more?"

A recent memorial service for a much-loved artist in our church ended with a poem and a prayer. The poem was “When Death Comes” by Mary Oliver,

I want to share four different stories that made it clear to me why involving those who gather to celebrate the life of one who has died is so important.

Astrophysicist Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson was asked by a reader of TIME magazine, "What is the most astounding fact you can share with us about the Universe?" This is his answer.

Greetings ladies and gentlemen. I’m X and I welcome you to the Y Chapel as we gather as an expression of our love, respect and regard for N. We come to mourn and to honour her/him. To lay to rest her/his mortal body and support one another as we grieve.

It was carved with hand tools on a rough slab of native red rock: “Marcelito L. Baca - murio a la edad de

In the rising of the sun and in its going down, We remember them.


I am really struggling with my faith today, A boy near us has killed himself.

Those who cared for, nurtured and protected us All: They are always with us

A ritual of remembrance drawn from many traditions.

This poem results from my week of intense conversations with friends and students about the nature of life, death, and grief.

Tender, joyful, gentle, and breathtakingly beautiful, the music of "Beloved" is a healing balm for the soul that will lift your spirit and carry you on waves of love into the arms of the Divine.